Saturday, January 28, 2017

My fair learner

Language learning is not about knowing how to pronounce certain words. It is all about loving the language and accepting it as it is. The intellectual bit of learning is easy because children speak it; what hinders adult-learning is the psychological aspect, something that resists learning. As long as you are laughing at the language, you are not learning it; when you start laughing with the language, you open the doors of twisting your tongue automatically, effortlessly and almost unconsciously plunge into learning the language.  Even neutralization of accents becomes automatic. If you have closely watched My Fair Lady, you will see Eliza Doolittle speaking like a duchess when Higgins, for the first time, maybe out of sheer fatigue, empathized with her... would advise all trainers and instructors to see the film again; you will see Higgins hoity-toity and high-handed treatment towards Elisa transforms into teacherlessness, his body language, his vocal clues do not have any arrogance, they urge Elisa to think, to help her understand what her aim is, what she has set out for.

"I know your head aches. I know you're tired. I know your nerves are as raw as meat in a butcher's window. But think what you're trying to accomplish.

Just think what you're dealing with. The majesty and grandeur of the English language....It's greatest possession we have. The noblest thoughts that ever flowed through the hearts of men... are contained in its extraordinary, imaginative... ... musical mixtures of sounds. And that's what you've set yourself out to conquer, Eliza.

And conquer it you will."

Epiphany or magic happens after this, the teacher and the taught could not believe what they heard; Eliza started speaking in a tongue which was not a disgrace to Milton and Shakespeare, and from then on, there was no looking back. Trainers and instructors, especially course designers cannot ignore this significant aspect, this turning point, this moment of transformation while creating and or delivering their respective modules.

Whenever one is preparing any language learning material, it is effective to factor this; the way in which we can inject empathy into the learning atmosphere. Though the success of Higgins was far too easy because of the ideal teacher student ratio (1:1), Elisa's 24/7 assiduity  and Pickering’s indulgent sponsoring of the whole affair; however, trainers who prepare training materials need to focus on elements that empower the learners; it’s a fascinating process and it works in all modules on training. The method which does not boast the knowledge of the trainers/ instructors/professors, but that which makes the process of learning easy, fearless, communicative, something that helps learners take off into an auto-learning mode, when the learner does not have to be told to do the homework, when they take the learning beyond the classrooms; it happens in any field.

O yes I have tried this a number of times with my learners and I had completely submitted to them, placed them as high as possible, not to show how learned I am, or how difficult the topic I am dealing with is, but to focus on how easy and fascinating the content is and what they can achieve if they learned; I urged them to teach the content to me and to their peers. Of course, I tried to polish the pebbles, but without dimming the diamonds in my class. It feels unkind using this metaphor but I kept my feet on the ground while understanding the ability of learners, tried and tested how a learner relatively weak on a given topic took off when they were asked to explain it to the whole class; it works with every group irrespective of age and career level.

By placing myself at the lowest, I made me almost disappear in class, as the most redundant subject, not required at all, especially during activities, to get the highest from the beautiful learners with whom I interacted.


The objective of this article is to underline the importance of developing methods keeping in view the psychological and emotional aspects of learning more than its elements; to enjoy the moments of class, moments of learning.

Friday, January 13, 2017

Watch your thoughts

For quite some time, I have been tuning in to a channel called Peace of Mind (PoM) run by the Brahmakumaris (BKs). Most of the things they say make a lot of sense. In fact, everything they say does. However, I am no one to judge or evaluate the speakers, I‘d rather want you to tune in and listen. Since 2012, I have been listening to Sister Shivani, Suresh Oberoi and Kanupriya regularly in the Aastha Channel, but having access to Peace of Mind has brought me much closer to many BKs, like Sister Jayanti, Dadi Janki and Dadi Gulzar. Programmes like Samadhan by BK Suraj Bhai Ji, Zindagi Bane Asan by Dr. Prem Masand are really worth listening to. It is relevant for everyone, for achievers as well as for losers and those poor black sheep or those outcasts whom society has rejected.
In this article, I will try to share why thoughts are important for every individual. My aim objective though would be to encourage more and more listeners tune in to Peace of Mind so that they can also join the BKs, emotionally and spiritually to restore peace into this beautiful world.

Why thoughts are important
It is important because thoughts create our destiny. It was heartening to know that we have the power to choose our thoughts regardless of the magnitude of any situation. It took me a little while to accept that in every situation, I choose my thought, even if a person facing me is hurling abuses, I have the power to choose how to respond to the situation or to the person. But that is not the objective of this article, so let me not deviate. Would urge interested readers to plug in to PoM and discover it themselves.

How is thought creating our destiny
Every thought gives rise to feelings. Feelings prompt us into actions. Actions repeated in time become our attitude. Our attitude becomes our habits which in turn become our personality; and personality becomes our destiny. In the discussions with Suresh Oberoi and Kanupriya, Sister Shivani gives zillion examples to convincingly clarify how this happens.
Sister Shivani says that every day we think around 45 to 50k thoughts. She asks us to imagine ourselves as the CEO of this factory that produces 45 to 50k thoughts a day, and because of being the CEO, to check on the quality of thoughts. If these 45 to 50k words were to be looked upon as a product, say fan, then we’d want the fans to be of a certain quality. With this in mind, please read on.

Four types of thoughts
Broadly speaking, there are four types of thoughts, viz. pure, powerful, positive thoughts, negative thoughts, neutral thoughts and waste thoughts.
1. Pure / powerful / positive thoughts: I am a soul, I am a powerful soul, I am a powerful being, I accept every person/situation as s/he/it is. Factory produces best quality of product.
2. Negative thoughts: Anger is natural, I am angry because of this situation/person, etc. Hatred is natural. Factory produces bad quality of product.
3. Neutral thoughts: I have to get up early in the morning, reach office on time, go to the market to buy such and such product, etc. Factory produces good quality of product.
4. Waste thoughts: Thinking about past and future, good or bad Factory produces damaging products.

Now you can check for yourself what is it that your factory, which is otherwise a factory of love, producing. I was also taken aback to know that not only do we think about 45 to 50k words a day, more than 95% of our thoughts are yesterday’s.
Since thoughts create our destiny, it makes business sense to watch our thoughts, and trust me, it is possible. Very engaging; nothing in the world, no alcoholism, no drugs, no smoking, no dating, no partying is as interesting as watching our thoughts…ha ha ha….it is so fascinating dear friends.
I was able to finally leave smoking for good. It stayed with me for 32 years and I couldn't ever imagine myself without fuming. Now, it's over and free of cost. If I gave the credit to Sister Shivani, I know what she'd say... you did not quit smoking because of me or the BKs, you quit because you exercised your power to choose. If any of my friend (most my ex-colleagues) would read this, I am sure they'd be happy to know that I could finally make it. I consider this as one of my greatest achievements.
So keep watching your thoughts, it's a 24/7 fascinating engagement. You may fail again and again, but keep on trying...
"Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better." Samuel Beckett